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A lot of trainers, even some respected reward-based trainers, are still big on the idea of establishing yourself as a pack leader and garnering your dog’s respect. You have to admit, that’s a pretty heavy burden for a lot of people. The evidence is in on social hierarchy in dogs. They don’t form packs with alphas like wild wolves. Add to that, I’m not a dog. And anyway, where am I leading her to?
Here’s the real deal. I have a well developed cerebral cortex (if I do say so myself). I have a car, and credit cards, and a groovy smart phone. I can also, on a whim, buy eggs and poach them for breakfast. I’m a human being with opposable thumbs. By definition I am the dominant species in the room. So what’s up with this leadership stuff and all the hang ups about respect? I already feel pretty good about myself, and Stella’s a cool dog. I’m okay with both.
I do worry some about the other dogs and their people. Folks who bully themselves into leadership roles and demand respect often get nasty (think middle management). The dogs suffer, and honestly I think the people do too. Training is never about who is in charge. It’s about how you and your dog are communicating. Is your dog getting what she wants from you? Are you getting what you want from your dog?
I love it when Stella looks at me like that. She loves this little morning routine. I dip a tiny piece of crust in the egg yolk and toss it her way. It’s training blasphemy to feed from the table and that makes me love it even more. She and I have been at this for 18 months now and I’m hoping for about 15 more years of it. We’re learning to understand each other. I’ve got all her stuff, the car, the smart phone and the thumbs. She’s got all the tricks, the impeccable manners, the face of an angel. We trade freely. The more I get what I want, the more she gets what she wants. That’s training. I’m not much worried about who’s leading whom. I doubt she is either.
Perhaps one night I will find her at my laptop with a headset and a microphone on, like those dogs in the movies trying to take over the world. I guess then I’ll really have egg on my face, won’t I?
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Michael Baugh CPDT-KA, CDBC is a science-driven, reward-based, dog trainer in Houston, TX. He’s the director of training and behavior at Rover Oaks Pet Resort.
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8 comments:
Jan said...
My four dogs have established their own pack protocols. As long as I am the food source, it all seems to work out. :-)
K-Koira said...
Very well said. I feel no need to dominate my dogs, or be the "leader" so long as they respect me enough to listen to me, which they do. In fact, I generally cringe every time I hear the phrase "pack leader" thrown around in reference to dog training. NILIF is one thing, and quite useful, but IMO domination has no part in the human-dog relationship.
Carrie, with Tanner and Oliver said...
It's rather interesting to me how this article and my talks with Michael have changed how I believe my message is perceived. I have used the "Pack Leader" word loosely to refer to owners who have dogs, and in a more relative way to indicate our job as their trainers/caretakers. However, for me to think I could be a macho, dominatrix would be laughable at best. Not only would that not suit me, but it certainly does not represent my approach. I'm glad Michael has been successful in voicing this differently, and will help me to approach it with my readers with different words.
BTW, NILIF and IMO are not acronyms I am familiar with offhand. A little help?
Michael Baugh said...
BTW = by the way
NILIF = nothing in life is free (controlling resources in the name of training)
IMO = in my opinion (I have many)
Dawn said...
I think people get confused with the term leadership and automatically think military school. Leadership does not have to be established in forceful ways. It can be gentle and subtle. Setting boundaries is an example of leadership. By teaching your dog that he is not allowed on the furniture, you are establishing leadership. Feeding your dog regularly is establishing leadership. Training your dog with positive reinforcement is a way of establishing leadership. With all these things, your dog looks up to you for his care. That is quality leadership - no force necessary
Eugenia Vogel said...
Love the toast dipped in egg ritual, and when other trainers share their lovely routines. Who doesn't have this kind of fun? Of course you can feed from the table/bed/car; your dog knows when the goodies are no longer forthcoming because you say "no more", and previous goodie sessions yielded no more goodies after that's said. The difficulty with this type of thing in a trainer/client situation is that you know who you can teach this to w/o losing cred, knowing they get random reinforcement rules. Some clients are too steeped in black and white to be able to talk about the finesse factor. Long Live The Table Treats.
Jen said...
Elka gets table treats. She also gets as-I'm-cooking treats, has furniture privileges, and comes to bed with me at night. She tells me when she has to go out, I don't have her on a schedule. She goes upstairs ahead of me, I go through doors before her (typically). On walks, I let her sniff things, as long as she doesn't sled-dog towards them. And on walks, if something freaks her out, she's learning that she can look at me and I'll let her know if it's something to worry about.
Leadership is, I think, more about guidance than drill-sergeant, and if your dog thinks you're a good guide, he or she will be more reliable when you ask them to do something they might not particularly feel like doing at the moment.
LFPV said...
So well said and I couldn't agree with you more. Thank you for sharing those thoughts with us. I want my dog to respect me, just as I want the people in my life to respect me, but I don't need to be the pack leader, not with my dog, not with my family nor with my friends. You said it perfectly: "I’m not much worried about who’s leading whom. I doubt she is either." Thanks for a great article.
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